Have you ever thought, “I wish I could do that over?” Or have you ever asked yourself what life would be if you made a different decision about education, or a job opportunity, or starting a family?

If you have, you aren’t a bad person, and you aren’t alone.

We all get to a point in life where we question ourselves or our decisions. To err is human right?

If that’s the case, to wish for a do-over is divine. Especially since we all know it won’t happen. It can’t hurt to dream. I recently had dinner with a group of friends, and we entertained the question of whether we would go back to our twenties if we could.

There was a mix of responses.

“Hell no. I was poor in my twenties.”

“To have that body, absolutely.”

“If I can know what I know now.”

See, it’s all in fun, and as I said, it will never happen.

But what if the question is more profound than skin elasticity, credit scores, or bad relationship decisions? What if the question rocks the core of your existence? What if you feel like you made the wrong decision and still suffering the consequences? Sometimes I wonder what life would be had I decided to pursue a master’s degree in creative writing instead of law school. Would I be a best-selling author by now? Would I be happier? Wealthier?

Who the heck knows? I don’t, and while I entertained the thought, I moved on.

It’s okay to re-think your past and wonder what life could have been had you dated the scientist instead of the football player or gone to graduate school instead of taking a job right out of college.

We can ponder, but let’s not live with regrets, my friends.

Our lives are divinely what they were meant to be. Regardless of a decision, you made thirty minutes ago or thirty years ago. You have to trust that at this moment, you are where you are supposed to be; and that every decision you’ve made up until now has prepared you for this time in your life.

Live in and appreciate the now. If you don’t, you will waste valuable time reliving the past and wasting the precious time you have now. Life can be short, so make the best of it.

Be thankful, guys.

And write on.

Tamika