I hope everyone is having a safe and festive Halloween. I don’t typically dress up for Halloween but I certainly enjoy seeing all of the fun costumes and have seen quite a few interesting costumes today.
Enjoy your Halloween and don’t eat too much candy!
We have all know the clichés that relate to life’s challenges. We also know that when tough times arise, things often get worse before they get better. There’s an old song that says “trouble won’t last always”. No one has ever professed that trouble won’t ever come or that things will always be perfect, have they? You know why no one has ever professed those things? Because they aren’t true. Challenges are a part of life and challenges are what make us both stronger and wiser.
Rough times will occur in life and there is no real way to prepare for them because we have no idea when its going to happen. What we can do is be positive and keep in mind that things will get better. There’s always resolution to a problem and often times when we face challenges it prepares us for something better. Funny how life works, isn’t it?
So, chin up and brace yourself and when life throws you lemons, make lemonade or lemon meringue pie or whatever lemony desert you choose. Most importantly, remember to count your blessings when the storm passes.
The incident that happened in Washington was tragic and as the nation tries to understand why such a senseless thing happened, let’s not forget the families of the victims. It’s impossible to determine when something horrific will happen and we never know what’s going on in a person’s mind.
There are a lot of questions out there with the main one being, “Why?” While we may never know the reason, please keep the families of the victims in your prayers. Remember to hug your loved ones as much as you can and don’t put off that visit or phone call to that. If you love them, let them know.
It’s no secret that life has its ups and downs. Some days we feel as if we can conquer the world and other days we wish we could stay in bed and hide beneath the covers. (Or is that just me?) We’ve also heard about making lemonade out of lemons and all the other clever sayings intended to pull us out of life-invoked slumps. No matter what people say, there will always be challenges in life. We may have ailments or unexpected bills or a child or spouse who just doesn’t seem to be cooperating. The bad news is it happens, the good news is, it’s not the end of the world.
But being low on cash or under the weather are not deal breakers to life. There are some things you can’t control but your happiness is not one of those things. You have full control over that. Here are few things that get me through. I try to do these things on a regular basis and they definitely help.
Count your blessings – There are plenty – health, family, employment, friends, shelter, the ability to get up and work, being able to function on your own and so many more! If we take more time to count our blessings, we won’t have time to complain.
Be positive – Be careful what comes out of your mouth. If you put it out there, there’s a good chance it can happen. Phrases like “What else could happen?” and “I have the worst luck…” and “It probably won’t work out” are all phrases that set you up for failure before you even give yourself a chance. Think positively and most importantly, speak positively. If you want to speak something into existence wouldn’t you prefer it be something that benefits you?
Be supportive of others – Because you know what? You’re next. There are enough good things out there for everybody to get some. Support your friends, family, neighbor and anyone else you can in their endeavors. Not only is it beneficial to them, but it will make you feel good in the process and feeling good leads to happiness.
Be productive – Happiness won’t come knocking on your door. Get up and do something. Set some goals and accomplish them. Enroll in a class, get involved in the community or pick up that hobby you’ve put aside for a lot time. Accomplish something outside of your normal career. Accomplishments make you feel fulfilled and fulfillment leads to happiness.
Exercise – Exercising will make you happy. I promise! Research has shown that a mere 20 minute workout will significantly change your mood. In short-stressing the body, de-stresses the mind. Try it. Not only will it make you happy, you will look great too.
Pray – Give yourself and God a little time. Whether it’s early in the morning when you first wake up or in the car driving to work. It’s best to do it in the morning before you begin your day but if that’s not possible, do it at night. Just be sure to do it.
Let Go – Yes, if it’s hindering or upsetting you, let… it… go! That old job, that failed relationship, that grudge you’ve been holding on to since 2004 – let them all go. You can control your present, not your past so leave those things in the dust where they belong, and move forward!
I’m not an expert but these are a few things that help me when I get in one of the proverbial slumps of life. Hope they help you too!
I recently called my aunt just to tell her I was thinking about her and it turned into an hour and a half conversation. When I got off of the phone, I was reminded of the value of family. There are plenty of things you can change in life – your job, your address, your purse…but one thing that will always remain the same is family. For good or for bad, family remains consistent. Whether it’s consistently wonderful, consistently nosy or consistently broke, we always know what we’re getting with family.
I have been blessed with several sister-cousins that are all around my age and they each hold a special place in my heart. I can talk to them about anything and they will be honest with me. I know they love me for who I am, with all of my faults and hangups and that’s something really special. The world can be cruel and people can be even worse, so it’s nice to have someone call because they remember today is a big day at work, or send a random card in the mail to say “thank you”. It also feels wonderful to get a text as simple as, “You were on my heart”.
Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s not always peaches and cream and kumbaya, and all familial relationships aren’t made the same. I can attest to that as well as anybody else. But as with other things in our lives that may be difficult, we simply have to work with what we got. You only get one set of teeth and one family, be sure to care for both.
Hey there! I have had a few days to unplug and relax with the fam and it was absolutely wonderful! Things have gotten so busy lately, it was nice to chill out and have a little fun.
Before leaving for vacation I completed a half marathon in a local race. My goal was to finish in two and a half hours. When the race started, of course I was, nervous but as the adrenaline kicked in, I relaxed, set my pace and completed 13.1 miles in 2 hours and 5 minutes! It was an amazing feeling to cross the finish line and I was very proud that I beat my own goal time.
I am a goal oriented person. It’s what drives me. I put my goals on “the shelf” and as time permits, I pull them down one by one. I try not to let my goals sit for too long and I set a balance between tackling simpler goals and the goals that present more of a challenge for me. My philosophy is that life will go on whether we try to progress or not. Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself and don’t let life and opportunities pass you by. I know we all have obligations, jobs,families, etc. But remember to take a little time out for you to accomplish things on your list. Just go for it. And if you need a little support, seek it out. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I had an amazing race partner who entered the race just to support me. So grateful for her!
I don’t plan on running another half marathon anytime soon (pardon the pun) but I am happy that I completed the goal however and I look forward to the next one.
What goals do you have sitting on the shelf that need to be taken down and what’s stopping you from pursuing them? Don’t wait. Pull that goal down and get busy. You won’t regret it.
And for all you writers that have a book that’s been sitting around…finish it!
Hey guys! I was invited to participate in a book club and I am so glad I accepted. I had the opportunity to fellowship and chat with a dynamic group of women! They were engaging, funny and interesting. I have never been a part of a book club so I didn’t know what to expect prior to the meeting. It was a pleasure to discover that it was more social than anything else. I was a little nervous because I didn’t know anyone, but it was well worth it.
We discussed details of the book, current events, relationships and food. If you know me, you know I love to talk about food.
It was a great experience and I look forward to the next one. Another baby step!
Okay ladies and gentlemen, the party is over and it’s time for me to get busy promoting and selling my book. An easy task? We shall see. I had no idea the amount of work that goes into promoting and marketing a novel. I must say, writing was definitely the easy party. The other stuff, not so much. Launching my novel requires a lot of research and networking to keep the wheels turning.
The hardest part for me? Sharing myself. I am a very private person by nature and this entire social networking process has taken me (far) outside of my comfort zone. When I initially sent invites for my book launch party, I was greeted similar responses: “You wrote a book?” “You write?” “When did you find time to write a book?”
That was the first step in stepping out of my private little space and letting the world know I am now a published author. It was scary. Liberating, but scary. I decided not to let fear stop me from pursuing my dream. I know that being an author requires me to promote not only my book, but myself as well. So with each blog post, tweet or social interaction I know I am one step closer to conquering my fears, which will help launch my writing career to the next level.
The same applies for you. Don’t let me be out here by myself conquering fears and obtaining personal growth. Get on board. If you have a fear of something, face it head on and move forward. Do not let fear stop you from applying for that job, wearing you hair a certain way or even communicating with someone. Usually we are afraid of rejection. You wanna know a secret? Rejection won’t kill you. You will dust yourself off, learn a lesson and move onward. Just do it. As long as the results won’t cost your freedom or cause bodily harm, you don’t have anything to lose…except maybe the opportunity.
So here’s to the next level and here’s to seizing opportunities!